Has anyone ever said to you, “Wow! That’s amazing that you can do that!”…and you’ve waved it off saying “That was easy” or “It was nothing.”? We right brainers tend to think if we can do something then, surely, everyone else can. Or at least a lot of people can.
The truth is, it was easy for YOU, but if someone is impressed it means you’ve done something that isn’t easy for everyone and that it took some skill on your part.
We feel undervalued – that what we contribute isn’t taken as seriously as what someone else contributes, or isn’t seen as adding to the solution or positive outcome as much as others. But when we wave off recognition or acknowledgement of what we have contributed, how are people supposed to value our work. If we don’t see the value, and we teach them not to see the value, why would they pay us more?
Hence the catch-22.
We don’t see our own value (or downplay it) –> Other people can’t see or reward our value –> We end up being underpaid –> which leads to feeling undervalued –> Now we question our value even more –> and the beat goes on.
Being undervalued and underpaid go hand in hand. When right brainers are undervalued it often results in being underpaid. And being underpaid makes us feel undervalued. What we usually don’t want to look at is how we unintentionally contribute to these circumstances.
We need to start identifying our own gifts and learning to appreciate them as actual gifts that not everyone has. This is the only way we will be able to value them appropriately and get paid what we’re worth.
For example, what comes naturally to me is identifying a person’s blocks, immediately recognizing what they are missing and/or minimizing, seeing their patterns and how they all inter-relate, and what they are failing to consider. Seeing the patterns and pathways in what appears to be chaos and disarray comes naturally to me. For me it is really easy and simple. Until I realized that not everyone can see things the way I can, I undervalued my skills and wasn’t paid as well as I could have been.
Once I got clear that how I take in and process information, and then translate it into appropriate, actionable items is really rather remarkable, it became much easier for me to value my work. And my income followed suit.
What’s important to realize is that we don’t do this intentionally. Rather it is the result of how our brain is wired, our particular set of beliefs, and the habits we’ve developed over time. All three of these elements working together create our catch-22.
The good news is there’s a fairly simple way to turn this around. And, yes, this is one of those times where it really is simple – anyone can do it. As long as they know how. It starts with the beliefs.
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